tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27691111.post5213834599480457977..comments2023-07-18T07:27:08.516+00:00Comments on Siren Voices: patienceSpence Kennedyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11183848895584919812noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27691111.post-23334526902131593542015-06-14T09:52:17.774+00:002015-06-14T09:52:17.774+00:00Hey Carla
Dementia's a tough thing, no questi...Hey Carla<br /><br />Dementia's a tough thing, no question - for the patient, of course, but particularly for the relatives, in lots of cases. Guilt is a huge issue, too, like you say.<br /><br />It's a very good thing you do, working in those situations! :) xSpence Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11183848895584919812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27691111.post-25972212574126093802015-06-14T00:43:08.657+00:002015-06-14T00:43:08.657+00:00Hi spence, hope your well.
It's just the sadne...Hi spence, hope your well.<br />It's just the sadness in her condition, I think that's such a great way to describe dementia.<br />Working in care, all but 2 out of 16 residents have dementia of some sort. You do think at times you yourself are going crazy, very difficult to keep your wits about you when you hear the same conversation or sentences constantly repeated. My heart goes out to the families when they come to visit, some don't know who they are, some are nasty, nice, sleepy or chatty. But you can see the pain of most relatives. We don't want to put our loved one's in a home but sometimes you have to make that difficult choice for the best for everyone's safety.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02864079474796026070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27691111.post-5328523181689443522012-07-02T09:57:43.268+00:002012-07-02T09:57:43.268+00:00Alan - Sometimes people say things in passing that...Alan - Sometimes people say things in passing that really strike home...<br /><br />Karen - So sorry to hear about the terrible time you had caring for your parents, your mother in particular. I've witnessed similar scenes at work from time to time, but still I can hardly imagine how dreadfully stressful and upsetting it must have been for you. <br /><br />I think those illnesses that directly affect the brain - the patient's very core of being - are the cruellest and most difficult to cope with, particularly for the carers. Losing someone you love is hard enough, but to lose them by degrees like that must be horribly traumatic.<br /><br />I hope everything's good with you now, Karen. Thank you so much for writing.<br /><br />Jacks - A made-up name of course. It was something along those lines, so I couldn't resist...Spence Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11183848895584919812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27691111.post-48958873460805429652012-07-02T06:17:31.577+00:002012-07-02T06:17:31.577+00:00An apt name.An apt name.jacksofbuxtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05420847156401984373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27691111.post-39325988815108882462012-07-01T17:20:17.729+00:002012-07-01T17:20:17.729+00:00This post really hit home for me. I took care of m...This post really hit home for me. I took care of my parents for several years in their old age. Both had dementia that gradually worsened but my mother, in particular, became very difficult to deal with. She could be sweet and childlike, and then become abusive and even violent. I had her in five different places for brief times but she would beg to come home and I'd feel so guilty, so I'd bring her home and feel like I was going to lose my mind...called paramedics in the middle of the night many times when she fell and I couldn't get her up and she would break a bone...when she tried to kill my Dad one night I knew she had to go somewhere permanently. The day I moved her she slapped me and told me she hoped my son would do the same to me someday. When I visited later she was happy to see me and remembered nothing...she would go back and forth between sweetness and nastiness. She and Dad are both gone now but it was the hardest part I ever lived through in my life.Karen Martin Sampsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15180294856179918446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27691111.post-56259295752876535692012-07-01T15:13:46.238+00:002012-07-01T15:13:46.238+00:00"I became a person who cared..."
I wish..."I became a person who cared..."<br /><br />I wish we all could say this.Alanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13393082652312828458noreply@blogger.com